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15.7.15

Having a mental illness doesn't define you.


If someone had said to me two years ago I would be able to talk to people I know and don't know about my mental illness I would have laughed in their face. I thought if people knew I had issues they wouldn't like me and that they would judge me. I hid a lot from people with my illness and I made myself a lot worse. Hiding the fact I was ill was a big part of my life. After having treatment and getting into deep issues, my doctor told me to say something to myself everyday that would change my life forever. 

"Id prefer not to have a mental illness but I don't demand it. It doesn't mean I'm crazy or losing the plot and it doesn't define me. It only means I'm a human capable of strong emotions".

Learning to accept a mental illness isn't who you are is one of the hardest things I have ever done but it was so worth it. I don't feel embarrassed about having a panic attack anymore, I don't worry what people think and that is amazing! I'm not better, I have such a long way to go but I don't feel defined by my illness. 

As soon as I got labeled with PTSD and OCD I found it very hard to get people to take me seriously. Sometimes I have a bad day and it has got nothing to do with my illnesses but people will put it down to them. Or I go to the doctors being ill and they tell me that's because I have a mental illness..I have a cold because I have OCD.. It's stupid. I don't define myself anymore but people still define me! The stigma once you are diagnosed is a nightmare that needs to be broken. Since I don't define myself anymore I will get my point across and won't take it when people put things down to my issues. People get labeled everyday with other illnesses and they are not defined by them so why should it be the same with a mental illness?

If you suffer from a mental illness remember, you are not defined by your illness. You are made up of so many different things. If you run a blog that isn't your illness. If you love reading that isn't your illness. You are way more than your illness! You are you and your mental illness is just a small part of you! If you feel that people are defining you because of it let them know! Just because you have some issues that doesn't need to be the center of attention. You don't have anything to feel embarrassed about, the people labeling you are the ones who should be embarrassed! 


Talk about it and don't let people define you and stop defining yourself! 


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  1. good for you for opening up and letting everybody hear your voice. Your illness mostly certainly does not define who you are and I hope you can improve with time! All the best girly!
    xox
    Pam xo/ Pam Scalfi♥

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  2. Well said! I completely agree that it shouldn't define who you are as a person. I think it's so easy for people to blame an illness on how someone acts & what they do etc.

    Thanks for being so open about it :)

    Tania // www.teabee94.blogspot.co.uk
    xo

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  3. I love this post - raising awareness of mental heath is such an important step in people starting to accept it as exactly that, and illness.
    I used to feel so awkward when I had an anxiety attack or even felt anxious.. but now I know it's just a small part of who I am and nothing to be ashamed of.

    Well done for being so open!

    x

    Small&Blonde ♥

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    1. I'm glad you are not ashamed anymore! That is an amazing step forward!
      Thank you so much for commenting!
      xx

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  4. What a great post. I am on the road to trying to accept my mental illness like you have done so well! It's very true that mental illness does NOT define you and is as small, but important a part of you as eye colour or your smile. You're so right that more needs to be done to remove the stigma around it; your blog post is a step on the way to that though, so well done again! Loved it :)
    Rebecca | The Two Twenty Somethings
    Xx

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    1. Aw thank you for your lovely comment! I'm so glad you are learning to accept your illness! Keep strong!
      xx

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  5. No doubt... Nice post :)

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  6. Um universo em novidade... Belo fim de semana.

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  7. Thank you for writing about this and I wish more would talk about this issue and with hope, the stigma will be gone. I suffered with depression for so many years and for the longest time I suffered in silence and almost drove myself mad and came close to suicide. The fear of what people would think of me made me refused to get treatment. I'm lucky to have a very loving and supportive husband and he helped me through it. I wish more people speak up about this, there are so many that could use the help, support and understanding.

    Shireen | Reflection of Sanity

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    1. Thank you for your amazing comment! Thanks for being so open and honest! I'm so sorry for what you had to go threw but I'm so happy that you are on the road to recovery! Keep Strong!
      xx

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  8. very well put, there shouldnt be so much stigma about mental illness. The silence about issues are the real danger.

    xx Falasha
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    1. Thanks for the comment! I couldn't agree more! It's time for change!
      xx

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  9. Hey Stacey, this is beautiful. No, you are not defined by your illnesses. They do not make you, they are not you. Thank you for being so honest, I know that it's difficult, especially in a public platform. But this is so amazing. I teared up a little. Thank you <3

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    1. Thank you for your lovely comment! Your so sweet!
      xx

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  10. You have such a great way of approaching mental illness. I agree that talking about it always helps, it definitely helps me a lot.

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    1. Thank you for your comment! Talking is the best thing!
      xx

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  11. Absolutely beautiful post! I love the message behind it. Mental illness definitely does not define anyone.

    Connie | Sponsored by Coffee | Etsy

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    1. Thanks for commenting! I couldn't agree more!
      xx

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  12. This is such an inspiring post - good for you to share something so personal :) I can imagine how frustrating it is! If someone says they're in physical pain, no one judges or questions them yet mental illness is somehow different! xx

    Jasmine Talks Beauty

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  13. This is such a wonderful post for you to share, thank you for sharing! "You are you and your mental illness is just a small part of you" is my favourite line in this post, it is so true. Some people (luckily not all) can be so quick to judge about mental illness because they cannot see it nor do they always understand. Hopefully one day there will be no stigma whatsoever surrounding mental illness.

    Emily // Beauty and Lifestyle Blog

    xx

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  14. I never read a post that could be so personal, you are really strong! I admire you for letting us know a so private part of your life! :)

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